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Alano Silent Auction – Save The Date

 

Save the Date Flyer

June 10, 2017

Noon to 6:00 PM

401 S. 11th, Main Hall

Alano Silent Auction

Four Speakers – half hour each

12:00, 1:00, 2:00, 3:00

4:00 Food

6:00 Auction closes

Want to help??  Organizing meeting April 4, 2017 at 6:P30 PM at Alano, 401 S. 11th.  Please come and offer your service.

Donate to Alano using Paypal on our WEB Page

alanostjoe.com Alano is now established with Paypal for easier donations to this worthy cause.  The “DONATE” button is at the top of the right sidebar.  Please feel free to test it out – send as much as you want, we will not turn down large donations.

We have a number of expenses that fall into the category of routine maintenance on our building.  This maintenance has not occurred regularly over the years because of lack of funds.  We are planning work on our storm windows (repairing broken windows), fire safety (new emergency lights and smoke detectors), gutters, landscaping, lawn care, and interior painting and wall restoration.  We are also preparing for work on structural problems.

Thanks for thinking of Alano.

December Board Meeting canceled

The December Board of Directors Meeting has been canceled because of bad weather and family illness.

We are not rescheduling the meeting – our next meeting will be the January 8 election of the Board.

Issues for this month that were to be discussed tomorrow:

  • Christmas Eve Dinner at 2:00 PM on December 24, 2016.  Kirby has raised more than enough money through donations to pay for fried chicken.  Be sure to come and bring a side dish – enjoy the festivities and fellowship.
  • Josh poling is our new caretaker.  The parking spot in front of the carriage house is reserved for Josh.  Please inform others and ask them to not park in Josh’s spot.
  • Traditionally we leave the building open on new Years Eve until after midnight anyone who wants to have clean and sober fellowship and games.  We will again try to accommodate this event.

2016 Christmas Eve Dinner

The Alano Club of St. Joseph is again hosting a Christmas Eve Dinner.

  • Christmas Eve
  • Saturday, December 24th
  • 2:00 PM
  • 401 S. 11th.
  • St. Joseph, Missouri

Alano will provide catered Fried Chicken, Tea, and Coffee.

Please bring a side dish or dessert

As is typical of all Alano events a free will donation is appreciated.

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People Pleasing – from Hazeldon

Today’s thought from Hazelden is:

People Pleasers

Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.

People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.

People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, “I hope I’m pleasing you.” Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.

Taking other people’s wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.

Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.

People Pleasing

Read over these statements to see if they apply to you under some circumstances:

  • I try to be who someone wants me to be.
  • am afraid to rock the boat.
  • It is hard for me to know what I want.
  • I avoid speaking my mind.
  • I find it easier to go along with what someone wants or with their opinion.
  • I fantasize about a strong person taking over my life and making it work.
  • It is hard for me to express my feelings when they are different from someone I’m close to.
  • It is difficult for me to say No.
  • I avoid getting angry.
  • It is hard for me to take initiative.
  • I try to be nice rather than expressing how I really feel.
  • I want everyone to get along.

If any of these statements are true the consider reading more:

http://personal-growth-programs.com/people-pleasing/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/

http://verilymag.com/2015/06/unhealthy-approval-seeking-behavior-people-pleasers

Thanksgiving Dinner 2016

Thanksgiving is upon us.  November 24, 2016, shall see another celebration with food and friends.

Traditionally we serve food at 2:00 PM.

Alano is catering the turkey, ham, potatoes, and home made dinner rolls at this annual pot luck.  Please bring your favorite thanksgiving dish and dessert.

Please bring family and friends.

Free will donation accepted.

Al-Anon Christmas Speakers Meeting

Save the Date

December 14, 2016

5:00 PM to 7:30 PM

New Hope Al-Anon hosts the third annual Christmas Speakers Meeting

401 S. 11th

St. Joseph, Missouri

Tentatively five speakers (AA, NA, GA, DA, Al-Anon) each half hour beginning at 5:00

Snacks provided

 

Toxic People

When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you.  The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth, just like you did.

Cracker Barrel – 2016

The Alano club of St. Joseph is hosting the 15th annual Cracker Barrel weekend.

When:  August 13th and 14th (all day)

Where:401 S. 11th Street, St. Joseph., Missouri

Long-timers Speakers 20 Years plus

Saturday Pancake Breakfast (9-11am)  and close with Ice Cream Social (9pm -)

Sunday 3PM potluck

Saturday

9-11 am Pancake Breakfast hosted by the 401 AA Group

12 pm – AA-Quinn G. Hope Group – 21 years

2 pm – AA – Rick L. Accent on Sobriety Group – 26 years

4 pm AA – Larry S. Bootstraps Group – 22 years

6 pm – AA- Steve E. Sobriety & Beyond Group – 43 years

8 pm – Alanon – Dora J. Tri Alanon – 43 years

9:30 pm – Ice Cream Social – Host New Hope Alanon

Sunday

2 pm – AA- Joe W. Accent on Sobriety Group – 37 years

3 pm Potluck – bring a side dish

$$$ donations accepted – coffee and lemonade, pop for sale.

5 pm – Gary L. 401 Group 2.5 years

7 pm – AA – Mary C. Sober Skirts – 26 years