Monthly Archives: December, 2016

December Board Meeting canceled

The December Board of Directors Meeting has been canceled because of bad weather and family illness.

We are not rescheduling the meeting – our next meeting will be the January 8 election of the Board.

Issues for this month that were to be discussed tomorrow:

  • Christmas Eve Dinner at 2:00 PM on December 24, 2016.  Kirby has raised more than enough money through donations to pay for fried chicken.  Be sure to come and bring a side dish – enjoy the festivities and fellowship.
  • Josh poling is our new caretaker.  The parking spot in front of the carriage house is reserved for Josh.  Please inform others and ask them to not park in Josh’s spot.
  • Traditionally we leave the building open on new Years Eve until after midnight anyone who wants to have clean and sober fellowship and games.  We will again try to accommodate this event.

2016 Christmas Eve Dinner

The Alano Club of St. Joseph is again hosting a Christmas Eve Dinner.

  • Christmas Eve
  • Saturday, December 24th
  • 2:00 PM
  • 401 S. 11th.
  • St. Joseph, Missouri

Alano will provide catered Fried Chicken, Tea, and Coffee.

Please bring a side dish or dessert

As is typical of all Alano events a free will donation is appreciated.

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People Pleasing – from Hazeldon

Today’s thought from Hazelden is:

People Pleasers

Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.

People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.

People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, “I hope I’m pleasing you.” Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.

Taking other people’s wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.

Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.

People Pleasing

Read over these statements to see if they apply to you under some circumstances:

  • I try to be who someone wants me to be.
  • am afraid to rock the boat.
  • It is hard for me to know what I want.
  • I avoid speaking my mind.
  • I find it easier to go along with what someone wants or with their opinion.
  • I fantasize about a strong person taking over my life and making it work.
  • It is hard for me to express my feelings when they are different from someone I’m close to.
  • It is difficult for me to say No.
  • I avoid getting angry.
  • It is hard for me to take initiative.
  • I try to be nice rather than expressing how I really feel.
  • I want everyone to get along.

If any of these statements are true the consider reading more:

http://personal-growth-programs.com/people-pleasing/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/21-tips-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser/

http://verilymag.com/2015/06/unhealthy-approval-seeking-behavior-people-pleasers